Find energy from solitude activities? Become drained after a few hours of social activities? Often focusing on internal thoughts? These are just a few common traits of an introvert.
Being introverted does not mean I am shy. I am quiet, not shy. If I want to tell you something, I will. I used to be shy, very afraid to raise my hand in class and talk to people that were new to me. It drove me crazy to be shy, I hated it. I gradually forced myself into situations to overcome shyness. But the introverted side of me stays. That’s who I am.
Introversion can be misunderstood as rude, selfish or standoffish. It’s not, I’m just not much into small talk, it doesn’t mean I don’t like you. We introverts can be great listeners! We really like to think before we talk so we are not usually the first to speak up in a conversation. Get us talking about something we are interested in and we don’t stop talking.
I keep most of my emotions inside. I know this makes it hard to tell what I am thinking. But please know I do have emotions, strong emotions, just like any other person. I just often don’t express them outwardly.
Extroverts and Introverts enjoy many of the same activities. We are not so different from one another. I like to workout but by myself, you may like to workout but with a group of people. I love going to fairs and festivals with a couple close friends for a few hours, you may find much more fun taking a group for the whole day.
On the other hand, I’m quite content alone with a book, walking my dogs, or taking photographs. These are the activities that energize me.
The world needs all types of people. Keep this in mind. We need quiet, deep thinking introverts just as much as we need outgoing, risk taking, social extroverts. We all create the wonderful world we live in.
To all you extroverts out there, we love you. We really do. You add excitement to social situations that we truly do enjoy. Just know many situations that revive your energy actually drain our energy – our brains work differently.
Every introvert and every extrovert is different. We all have different levels. Be at peace with who you, and others around you, are.