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What Motivates You?

What Motivates You?

What Motivates You?

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was ending, he turned into a butterfly.” Proverb

Motivation is different for everyone. What works for one person may completely discourage another.

Some of us have very upbeat, a bit in your face, personalities. We use this to push and motivate people. Some people love it and it pushes them in the right direction. Others… not so much. This personality scares them or even angers them.

It’s important to look at yourself, what works for you? What type of activity or person motivates you personally? If you are the one doing the motivation, look at the person you are trying to help. What method best fits their personality?

Some days are harder than others. This is ok! Do not beat yourself up. If you have a rough day, brush it off, and start over the next day. Everyone has rough days, you are not alone.




Do you like crowds? If so, try activities like concerts (music is great inspiration), take a class and learn a new hobby, join a gym, or volunteer (a sense of purpose provides motivation).

Do you like to be alone? If so, try activities like reading a great motivational book, exercising while tuning out to your favorite music, talking a walk (the outdoors can bring so much peace and motivation), or take up a new hobby.

Do something different. Getting in a rut strips motivation!

You can do it!! Never Give Up!! Love Yourself!


10 Ways to Minimize Road Rage

10 Ways to Minimize Road Rage

Have you ever been involved in ROAD RAGE??

Road Rage Can Be Prevented

The NHTSA references a study showing 94% of car crashes are assigned to the driver. 41% of those due to recognition errors (inattention, distractions…), 33% to decision errors (driving too fast, illegal maneuvers…), and 11% to performance errors (over compensation…).

Engaging in road rage can kill you or your loved ones.

Winter roads, the stress of traveling to multiple holiday events, running late to work, road construction, children screaming, mental illness, a bad day at work all can equal Road Rage.

It’s easy for anyone to become stressed while driving. Even the calmer people of society can become aggravated while driving at some point.

Road rage is never acceptable, although way too common!



1-Give yourself plenty of time to arrive at your designation. That extra 15 minutes can greatly decrease your stress level.

2-Breathe. Don’t hold your breathe when driving becomes stressful. It sounds crazy, but when we are fearful we tend to hold our breath and tense our bodies. Not a good idea when driving! Deep breathes help you relax and are very easy to do while driving. Breathing also helps you focus on something positive.

3-Don’t fight with your spouse or children while driving. If an issue arises pull over and finish the discussion off the road!

4-Obvoiusly do not use your cell phone or eat while driving. You may think you are paying attention to the road, but your reaction time is lessened due to these extra activities. You are much more likely to be in an accident or cause road rage from the drivers around you.

5-Do not drive when you are tired. If you even start to become tired pull over and get out of your car. Take a quick walk, go into a near by store. Revive yourself. It only takes a few minutes but can save a life.

6-Do not engage with aggressive drivers. It’s not worth it! Even if they pulled in front of you or gave you a gesture, just ignore them. Keep a good distance in between you and them and do not antagonize the situation. Their negativity is not to be taken against you personally they are the ones out of control. If you antagonize someone already out of control you will never fix the situation. You will make it worse.

7-Remember people make mistakes. Just because someone tried to switch lanes and was too close to you, it doesn’t mean they did it on purpose. They may have just made a mistake. Forgive them and let it go. You make mistakes also.

8- Listen to the Radio. Focus on the music or words coming over the radio. Try listening to a book or podcast, this can help long drives seem more productive. Remember to also keep an eye on the road!

9-Never be under the influence of drugs or alcohol while driving. Being impaired decreases your attention to the road and the drivers around you. Have a friend drive you home, take a taxi, get a hotel.

10-Never be an aggressive driver. Cutting people off and slamming on your breaks will never get your point across and those actions may just cost a life.


How do you keep your cool while driving?

Peace be with you on the road!


Study Reference: US Department of Transportation Traffic Safety Facts, Crash Stats. Feb 2015

Fear of Public Speaking?

Fear of Public Speaking?

Heart pounding, clammy palms, hands shaking, feeling nauseous, can’t sleep, can’t eat?? Does any of this sound familiar before you have to give a speech?

I definitely know the feeling! I used to be horrified to give speeches. I cannot even remember giving most of my speeches in my teenage years. I don’t even think I looked up at the class. Somehow I made it through each time, but my speeches were incredibly boring and monotone. I’m sure I even made my classmates nervous.

After high school I decided I had to get over this fear! I knew I was going to need to give speeches in college and in my job.

Am I perfect at it now? No, but I do actually think they are kind of fun… many many speeches later. It’s definitely taken a lot of practice.

I started out by forcing myself into situations that required speeches. I like to torture myself! I took classes in college that I knew would require multiple speeches just so I could practice.

Here are some helpful hints I have learned over time.

1- Make sure you really really know your stuff. Do not just memorize the words, but understand what you are going to talk about. Practice the speech in private numerous times so that you can ad lib much of it.

2- Try it out loud by yourself. Practice this several times. Get to where you are no longer staring at your paper or cards.

3- I use cards so that I can ad lib the majority of the speech and the cards are just reminders to keep me on track. Cards are especially good for specific stats or quotes you have to provide.

4- Practice giving the speech to a friend or family member. You can let them know about your fear. There is a good chance speeches are also hard for them.

5- Remember even confident speakers get nervous. They are just good at hiding their nerves.

6- Eat and Sleep well before the speech. This is more important then you may think. Eating healthy and sleeping well heals the body and makes it strong.

7- Take a couple deep breathes before entering the room to speak.

8- If you can, make a joke before you start your speech. Sometimes this helps, if it goes over well. I know if I can make the group laugh it definitely lessens my fears.

9- Very important, take breathes while your are doing your speech! Take a small pause, take a breathe, then start speaking again. Short pauses will help you breath better throughout the speech and calm your nerves. This will also help you slow down.

10- Fluctuate your voice, use eye contact, speak slowing, and use pauses. You’ll find your audience will stay more involved, which will in turn create more confidence in you.

11- If possible, use slides or other presentation tools. These tools take the focus off you and will help you relax.

12- Wear an outfit that you feel confident in.

Public speaking is quite hard for many people, so do not give up.

Concurring public speaking gives you a motivational boost. I’m so excited (and admittedly still a bit relieved) when I am done speaking. I no longer blank out, people seem interested in what I’m saying and ask questions, and I feel exhilarated when I’m done. Make public speaking fun!


How to Overcome Fear #fear #motivation

How to Overcome Fear #fear #motivation

Don’t let fear rule your life. Don’t wait until it’s too late to understand how fear can hold you back and keep you from truly enjoying the world you live in.

“Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.” –Judy Blume

You can take small steps to overcome fears. For example, if you are frightened of going to a new class (it may be at school, a new college, or even a knitting class or aerobic class) and interacting with all the new faces work to overcome this.

1-Choose a class you really like and sign up for it. Actively signing up for the class is a very important step to take.

2-Have a friend sign up with you until you are confident enough to attend on your own.

3-Each day, for several days before the class begins, visualize going into the class. Picture yourself as confident, holding your head high. Picture yourself feeling calm. Take time in these visualizations and really feel what you are picturing. If the classmate next to you says hello, visualize what you will say back. Practice your responses so they will fall freely from your mouth when the nervousness sets in. “Hi, have you ever had this teacher before?”, “Hi, have you ever tried kick boxing (if you are in a kickboxing class :D) before?”.

4-Have a good nights rest before the class.

5-Be a little early to the class.

6-Just before you enter the room find an alone place, in your car or on a bench near the building. Perform some breathing exercises.

7-Step into class.

8-Understand that others around you are also nervous. You are not alone!  That’s usually hard to understand, but trust in the fact that many people are more nervous than they appear.

9-Repeat the process again. Keep working at it until your fear resides. Remember this will take time. Continue to pick yourself up and try again.

You can do this same practice for walking through a dark parking lot, walking/running a 5K, whatever your fear may be.

If you fears are too large to overcome by yourself, see a professional that can help you walk through the steps to release your fears. Don’t hold back due to fear.

You cannot wait for the fear to go away on it’s own. Waiting will often create more fear. Visualize, breathe, and take action.

What has helped you overcome fears in the past?

Fearful to feel HAPPINESS?

Fearful to feel HAPPINESS?

This is something I and so many others have a fear of. Why?? We should strive to feel happiness!

It seems like such an odd concept to fear being happy, but it’s very real for so many of us.

A significant reason behind this fear is because allowing happiness in also allows the chance of failure. And, failure is bad, correct? Oftentimes in my head, yes, but in reality the answer is NO. Failure can be good.

Failure can teach you what methods do not work and allows you to search for better methods.

Failure often opens our eyes to our own flaws. This can be good, it allows us to see these flaws and have the option to fix them.

We have to open ourselves to feel failure in order to allow happiness in. This can be frightening, but if we learn to see failure in a less negative light, maybe even a positive light, happiness will not be so frightening.

Life is so much more enjoyable when allowing happiness in. Do not hide from your emotions. Focus on the good things in life. Being more positive lessens the chance of failure taking you down.

Remember you control the way you feel, do not let feelings control you. You choose what to fear and what not to fear. Of course this is easy to say, it can be very tough. But, hang in there and open yourself to happiness.

Peace and Hugs to you!

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.”