Tag: mind

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow.  Learn as if you were to live forever.”  Mahatma Gandhi #life

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” Mahatma Gandhi #life

When are you going to die? When are your friends and family members going to die??

You are young. You say, “I’m barely half way through my life. I’m fine. Don’t worry about me.”

Fuel your body with healthy food and physical exercise. Try mediation or breathing exercises. Horrible habits may not harm you now, but you never know when your body may need to be strong to fight a sudden illness or sudden accident.

Do not take life for granted. We all do, I know it’s hard. We forget how strong and resilient our bodies are one minute and how weak they can be the next.

I have a family member, just 41 years old, that suddenly became ill. We don’t know if he will make it or not. The doctors are skeptical. He has been in the critical care unit at the hospital for a week as of today. Doctors scramble to figure out what is wrong with him, but no one can find a diagnosis.

Now we sit and wait, not knowing what to say to each other. Wondering what will happen. Thinking about how he feels right now, is he aware of what is happening? Surely he doesn’t feel any fear or pain… right? We don’t truly know. It all seems so unreal.

Find happiness and peace in you life. Take care of your own health. Set and complete goals in your life. Don’t let your fears stand in your way. Let struggles from the past go. Show your family you love them and love yourself.

Find the beauty in life.

What Gives You Energy?

What Gives You Energy?

Some days I wake up feeling so tired and drained of energy that I feel little motivation to move through the day.

Here are some suggestions I use on those days:

1- Force myself get out of bed. Do not waste your day. Laying in bed will just make you feel worse. It allows time for negative thoughts to run through your head.

2- Eat something healthy. Food fuels your body. It’s energizing to take care of yourself. Unhealthy foods provide soothing feelings momentarily but will quickly drain you of energy in the long run.

3- Drink plenty of water and stay hydrated. This provides physical energy.

4- Exercise. Run or even take a short walk. You may start out feeling as if you can barely put one foot in front of the other, but you will start feeling more energy as you move forward. Take in the sounds and the sites around you.

5- Do not watch TV! This quickly drains energy if you are already feeling down.

6- I open my windows and let in light and fresh air.

7- Pull energy from your physical environment. I’ll label it One Mindfulness. Focus on a beautiful tree outdoors. What color is it, how does it move, what sound does the air make as it moves through it’s leaves?

Have you ever read the book “The Celestine Prophecy”, by James Redfield? It’s more of a fictional account, but I found it quite interesting. It has a focus about using the energy around us.

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8- Work on a hobby. Read, photograph, blog, play music, make models, take a road trip, paint a room, sew… find something that interests you.

9- I try to sleep 6-7 hours a night. It’s not always possible, but too little or too much sleep can quickly drain energy.

10- Use affirmations and breathing exercises. I’m a big believer in these!

Where do you get your energy from?

Fearful to feel HAPPINESS?

Fearful to feel HAPPINESS?

This is something I and so many others have a fear of. Why?? We should strive to feel happiness!

It seems like such an odd concept to fear being happy, but it’s very real for so many of us.

A significant reason behind this fear is because allowing happiness in also allows the chance of failure. And, failure is bad, correct? Oftentimes in my head, yes, but in reality the answer is NO. Failure can be good.

Failure can teach you what methods do not work and allows you to search for better methods.

Failure often opens our eyes to our own flaws. This can be good, it allows us to see these flaws and have the option to fix them.

We have to open ourselves to feel failure in order to allow happiness in. This can be frightening, but if we learn to see failure in a less negative light, maybe even a positive light, happiness will not be so frightening.

Life is so much more enjoyable when allowing happiness in. Do not hide from your emotions. Focus on the good things in life. Being more positive lessens the chance of failure taking you down.

Remember you control the way you feel, do not let feelings control you. You choose what to fear and what not to fear. Of course this is easy to say, it can be very tough. But, hang in there and open yourself to happiness.

Peace and Hugs to you!

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
―Abraham
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Inside an Introvert

Inside an Introvert

Find energy from solitude activities?  Become drained after a few hours of social activities?  Often focusing on internal thoughts?  These are just a few common traits of an introvert.

Being introverted does not mean I am shy. I am quiet, not shy. If I want to tell you something, I will. I used to be shy, very afraid to raise my hand in class and talk to people that were new to me. It drove me crazy to be shy, I hated it. I gradually forced myself into situations to overcome shyness. But the introverted side of me stays. That’s who I am.

Introversion can be misunderstood as rude, selfish or standoffish. It’s not, I’m just not much into small talk, it doesn’t mean I don’t like you. We introverts can be great listeners! We really like to think before we talk so we are not usually the first to speak up in a conversation.  Get us talking about something we are interested in and we don’t stop talking.

I keep most of my emotions inside.  I know this makes it hard to tell what I am thinking.  But please know I do have emotions, strong emotions, just like any other person.  I just often don’t express them outwardly.

Extroverts and Introverts enjoy many of the same activities. We are not so different from one another. I like to workout but by myself, you may like to workout but with a group of people. I love going to fairs and festivals with a couple close friends for a few hours, you may find much more fun taking a group for the whole day.

On the other hand, I’m quite content alone with a book, walking my dogs, or taking photographs. These are the activities that energize me.

The world needs all types of people. Keep this in mind. We need quiet, deep thinking introverts just as much as we need outgoing, risk taking, social extroverts. We all create the wonderful world we live in.

To all you extroverts out there, we love you. We really do. You add excitement to social situations that we truly do enjoy. Just know many situations that revive your energy actually drain our energy – our brains work differently.

Every introvert and every extrovert is different.  We all have different levels.  Be at peace with who you, and others around you, are.

“It isn’t enough to talk about peace, one must believe it. And it isn’t enough to believe in it, one must work for it.”                                   — Eleanor Roosevelt

“It isn’t enough to talk about peace, one must believe it. And it isn’t enough to believe in it, one must work for it.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

We must not wait for peace to enter our lives. Open yourself to receive peace and believe that it will come.

Create situations that open paths in your life that will lead you to peace.

Peace takes action on your part, oftentimes while you are feeling anything but peaceful. Take small steps and you will find your peace.

Find a Little PEACE in Your Life

Find a Little PEACE in Your Life

Peace is found everywhere around you.

Make an effort to identify something peaceful in your life every day.  Make a game out of it so it becomes a habit.  If you have a very stressful life this may seem hard to do at first.  It can take some practice.

It can help to have a note pad next to your bed and force yourself to write down at least one peaceful thing you saw that day.

Peace can be seen as you are driving to and from work.  Look for green fields and flowers or kids playing baseball.

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Seek out the peaceful elements of your surroundings.  In crowded areas maybe you’ll hear a child laughing or smell delectable food from a nearby restaurant.

Take a walk or a hike and listen to the birds or watch the gentle waves in a lake.  Listen to nearby streams and focus on the sound and the sun reflecting on the ripples in the water.  Take a closer look at the lake, do you see rocks or fish swim peacefully by?

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Observe the small things around you and take in the peaceful energy.

What brings peace into your life?

Many Different Ways to “WIN” a BATTLE

Many Different Ways to “WIN” a BATTLE

Learn healthy habits to handle every day battles. Don’t hold onto negative energy.

Why fight some battles but let others go? How do you choose which battles to fight? Learn when to have a healthy debate.

Everyone runs into negative situations. Someone is picking on you or your child, you have a disagreement with your boss, a stranger is rude to you, or someone cuts you off in traffic.

Learning healthy ways to handle negative situations will bring peace into you life. Life is too valuable to fight on a daily basis. On the other hand, there are battles that you need to fight for. It’s not healthy to ignore all negative situations. There are some battles that will linger forever if you do not stick up for your beliefs. Holding onto anger can allow it to grow inside you and negatively effect your physical and mental health.

Which battles do you fight through debating or expressing your views? I always ask myself if the issue is something that will continue to frustrate me in a couple weeks. If it will, then I take it head on. If not, walking away may actually win the battle.

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For example, if the store clerk is rude, are you really going to care a day later? Chances are you’ll be over the frustration within a day or possibly even within a few minutes. So, in situations like this, walk away. Let it go and don’t be confrontational or rude in return. You will feel stronger because you let it go. If you must respond be truly nice in return. Do not say something that will escalate the situation. Your reaction won the situation.

Keep in mind, most of the time people are rude it’s not really directed at you. They are having issues of their own that have nothing to do with you. They hold onto anger and then lash out at innocent people. Or, maybe you just took them wrong and they were not trying to be rude.

If someone picks on you or a loved one, take it on. You and your loved ones are worth it. Being picked on is likely something you will hold onto for years or even a lifetime. In these sorts of situations be strong, but practice pausing before you react. Violence is not the answer. Practice social intelligence. Give your brain enough time to think before you speak.  Find a friend to talk through it first before you react. You will be proud of yourself that you stuck up for the situation and handled it in a healthy manner.

Many situations do not need a confrontation. Often you just need to stand up for your opinions and values and have a healthy debate.  Debates are OK. You will learn a lot more through debating than from fighting. Even if you do not win the debate you still WON in the fact you learned more about the other person’s point of view and you were able to convey yours.

Think though healthy ways to take on the battles of life and find your peace.

Hypnosis  – Fearful or Trustful?

Hypnosis – Fearful or Trustful?

Is the first thought that comes to mind a colorful man at a festival asking for volunteers to gather near him? He tells the crowd they will be in awe at how easily he can hypnotize their friends and make them act out hilarious tasks in front of you for your amazement. Soon the volunteers will be standing on one foot and baulking like chickens.

This is my first thought. Hypnosis carnival style. Let me start by saying I have never tried it, hmmm, maybe because this is how I was introduced to it. I’m a bit fearful and admittedly a bit of a control freak when it comes to the thought of not having complete control over my actions.

BUT, I have heard several success stories with what I will term non-carnival hypnosis. So the concept really intrigues me.

I had a co-worker that quit smoking and I have a very close friend that greatly reduced anxiety through the use of hypnosis. They both stand by hypnosis.

Hypnosis can be done through self-hypnosis or a professional hypnotist can guide you.

What occurs during hypnosis?

Your focus and concentration become enhanced and you are able to block outside distractions. You become very relaxed, near a sleep like state. Being in this state opens you to be compelled to follow commands and tune out worries. Professional hypnotists have you assist them in what commands you want to follow and they will guide you appropriately.

The main belief of hypnosis is that it taps into your subconscious and momentarily sets your conscious aside. Your subconscious regulates and stores memories. It also regulates areas such as emotions, breathing, and digestion. It is very powerful. By tapping into these senses, behavior patterns (emotional, mental, and physical) can be altered.

It’s said that hypnosis is much like the state you are in when reading a really really good book. Now that does not sound too scary, does it?!

My friend tells me he can strongly remember the affirmations and connections the hypnotist placed in his subconscious. The words feel stronger to him than the affirmations done outside hypnosis. The sessions also relieved his extreme anxiety better than any other method he had tried.  He is also a strong believer in self hypnosis. He swears it is not frightening and that You allow the hypnosis to work within you.

I am very interested in the healing strength hypnosis has. What are your thoughts of this technique?