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What Motivates You?

What Motivates You?

What Motivates You?

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was ending, he turned into a butterfly.” Proverb

Motivation is different for everyone. What works for one person may completely discourage another.

Some of us have very upbeat, a bit in your face, personalities. We use this to push and motivate people. Some people love it and it pushes them in the right direction. Others… not so much. This personality scares them or even angers them.

It’s important to look at yourself, what works for you? What type of activity or person motivates you personally? If you are the one doing the motivation, look at the person you are trying to help. What method best fits their personality?

Some days are harder than others. This is ok! Do not beat yourself up. If you have a rough day, brush it off, and start over the next day. Everyone has rough days, you are not alone.




Do you like crowds? If so, try activities like concerts (music is great inspiration), take a class and learn a new hobby, join a gym, or volunteer (a sense of purpose provides motivation).

Do you like to be alone? If so, try activities like reading a great motivational book, exercising while tuning out to your favorite music, talking a walk (the outdoors can bring so much peace and motivation), or take up a new hobby.

Do something different. Getting in a rut strips motivation!

You can do it!! Never Give Up!! Love Yourself!


How do you get rid of Holiday Depression? #Christmas #holiday

How do you get rid of Holiday Depression? #Christmas #holiday

This is such an exciting time of year… Ecstatic shoppers out and about with all their holiday cheer, laughing children, stars bright, Santa and his elves are giving out gifts, family gratefully enjoying time with one another!! WAIT…


OK, that’s what we think is happening in everyone’s lives, but let’s be real. Yes, there are some awesome things about the holidays, but for many people it’s a very draining and emotionally depressing time. And believe me, all the above holiday cheer is often times lost just hours later or even faked by some.

Think about all the happy people you see in the mall as you shop for your holiday cheer. You notice them, right? Look around though, you’ll also notice many tired, stress out faces. You’ll find people arguing and fighting with their families.

The reason I point that out is because you choose what you pick out. We pick out the happy people and get depressed because we are not them. We dismiss that fact we may have just caught their one and only happy thought in the last 6 months.

Holidays are busy, which alone can be stressful. Holidays can remind us of past devastating experiences that occurred during the holidays, lost loves ones that we wish were here with us…

Because we pick out what we want to I’ve tried to make it my mission to pick out happy activities and then focus on the activity itself. Let in the smell of holiday spices, listen to the wonderful sounds of music, enjoy the creativity of the holiday artists, feel the crisp air… one mindfulness.

happy snowman

Then as I create my own happy place I tend to let others into my life more AND have learned to enjoy the holidays a bit more.

Keep yourself involved in holiday gatherings and festivities but also give yourself some personal space.

If you are happy you will spread happiness to others, if you are sad or angry you will spread this to others. As you become happier you’ll notice the people near you tap into your mood.

Remember others. Depression is real for so many people, let people in and help them to feel love this season.

Allow yourself to feel happiness. You are not alone in your struggles.

How do you get rid of depression around the holidays?

Autumn is HERE!! #autumn #fallcolors

Autumn is HERE!! #autumn #fallcolors

Don’t go inside yet, enjoy the autumn weather!!


Fresh crisp autumn air, wonderful light breeze, and golden leaves! I love this time of year.

As the daylight hours start to shorten remember the importance of sunlight and it’s awesome power!

You may have to start bundling up soon but get outside, take in some deep breathes, stretch, take a walk, and enjoy!

This season always reminds me of corn mazes, visiting pumpkin patches, buying chili peppers, and going on some of the most peaceful and beautiful hikes ever!!

autumn 1

As winter comes, I personally get down pretty easily. I have found the quickest way to pull myself out of a negative mood is to get out of a dark room and find some sunshine. If it’s warm enough, open your windows and let in a fresh breeze. The winters where I live get pretty cold, but during the day I always have a couple of my window shades open to let in some daylight. When possible I bundle up and get outside!

Don’t let the colder seasons get you down, explore the beauty they bring!

What are some or your favorite autumn activities?

Increase Your Willpower! #willpower

Increase Your Willpower! #willpower

Do you lack willpower? Ever wonder why some people seem to have so much more willpower than others?

Let’s start with the continued debate:

-Can willpower be depleted as it’s used, like a muscle? Can glucose intake increase willpower as it begins to deplete?

-Or is willpower self generated, hinging on your beliefs?

The concept that willpower can be depleted greatly concerned me and drew my attention to the subject.

If willpower can be depleted what happens to the poverty stricken person that has to use willpower throughout each day just to fight through hunger, to push on until a safe place is found for the night? How will this person continue the fight with such a high level of daily willpower depletion? Some individuals do however fight through this, How?

Are there other factors in willpower? You finally have enough willpower to push yourself outside to exercise. You return home to indulge in your favorite cheesecake? Why?? Was your willpower depleted during your push to exercise or did you simply feel you worked off enough calories to “deserve” the cheesecake. Many of us realize the workout did not truly offset the cheesecake input, but we still do it. Then we often feel horrible about it afterwards. Where was our self control??

If willpower is not depleted due to use, is it due to a lack of self worth? Do people believe willpower cannot be self generated? For example, I exercised, but I know I will not keep up with it, so who cares I’m eating my favorite cheesecake! I have no energy left to believe otherwise. What if this person trained themselves to believe willpower can be self generated? Would they have more power to overcome the cheesecake craving?


willpower 2

Both sides of the debate agree that achieving better self control can help you to achieve more success in life, more peace, and better health.

So, How can Willpower be Increased?

1- Incentives definitely play a role in many cases of willpower. You may not be able to will your empty glass to become full of water, but you may be able to push through a race if someone promised you money for simply finishing it.  Pick a small reward for yourself each time you show willpower.

2- Willpower is a positive attribute. Some people describe willpower/self-control as constricting. Allowing binge drinking may feel rewarding at the time, but keep in mind the following day will be restricted due to your physical and mental health, and could possibly keep you in bed all day! By having the willpower not to binge drink you kept yourself from constricting your health and well-being the entire next day.

3- Being told to do something can lower some individual’s willpower. This is one reason some people may be seen to have better willpower than others. Some of us like to follow rules and others of us feel trapped by rules. So think of having the willpower to do these positive things for yourself, not necessary for others.

4-Use One Mindfulness to focus your willpower on one task at a time. This focus can help distract you from the negative powers outside your current task.

5-Use meditation and breathing exercises to increase willpower.

6-Take small steps to increase your willpower. Use willpower to complete a task. Prove to yourself it was possible and feel the empowerment, then move to the next task.

7- Keep temptations far away. It’s easier to deny the temptation the further you are from it. So if you have a deep love for potato chips, keep them out of your house. Having to drive to the store can often times stray you from the temptation. Plus you will not have to watch others in your household eat them in front of you.

8- Practice resisting your negative temptations. Many theorize that you can build the portion of your brain that supplies willpower by resisting temptations. The more you resist, the stronger your willpower will become. Exercise your willpower.

9- I would say, at this point, don’t run to sugar to increase your willpower. We already have a society facing high levels of obesity and diabetes.

10- Don’t give up.  If you succumb to low willpower, pick yourself up and try it again.  You are worth it!

How have you increased your willpower?

Reference Professor Roy Baumeister for information with regard to willpower depletion.

Reference V, Job, Walton, G., Bernecker, K., and Dweck, C.S., “Beliefs about Willpower determine the impact of glucose on self-control”.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow.  Learn as if you were to live forever.”  Mahatma Gandhi #life

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.” Mahatma Gandhi #life

When are you going to die? When are your friends and family members going to die??

You are young. You say, “I’m barely half way through my life. I’m fine. Don’t worry about me.”

Fuel your body with healthy food and physical exercise. Try mediation or breathing exercises. Horrible habits may not harm you now, but you never know when your body may need to be strong to fight a sudden illness or sudden accident.

Do not take life for granted. We all do, I know it’s hard. We forget how strong and resilient our bodies are one minute and how weak they can be the next.

I have a family member, just 41 years old, that suddenly became ill. We don’t know if he will make it or not. The doctors are skeptical. He has been in the critical care unit at the hospital for a week as of today. Doctors scramble to figure out what is wrong with him, but no one can find a diagnosis.

Now we sit and wait, not knowing what to say to each other. Wondering what will happen. Thinking about how he feels right now, is he aware of what is happening? Surely he doesn’t feel any fear or pain… right? We don’t truly know. It all seems so unreal.

Find happiness and peace in you life. Take care of your own health. Set and complete goals in your life. Don’t let your fears stand in your way. Let struggles from the past go. Show your family you love them and love yourself.

Find the beauty in life.

Loss of Focus and Concentration?? #focus

Loss of Focus and Concentration?? #focus

Do you loose focus when talking to others, while doing projects, at work, while watching a program or reading a book?  Is your head jumbled with multiple thoughts at one time?

This may be because you are tired, bored, distracted, or trying to focus on multiple things.  Loosing focus is extremely easy to do!  You are not alone.

1- Don’t feel you have to truly multitask. I don’t know about you, but I cannot fully focus on two things at one time. I can quickly switch back and forth between tasks, but I have to focus on one task at a time to get great results.

2- Get SLEEP.  Sleep is extremely important. If you loose focus easily and sleep less than 5 hours a night try getting 7-8 hours. Get into a rhythm. Go to bed and wake up at the same time each day.  Some people swear they don’t need much sleep…  How true is this??  Sleep is not a waste a time.  It provides more energy and focus. Which in turn makes you more efficient during the day.

3- EAT HEALTHY.  This is similar to sleep.  Eat healthy food that provides you long term energy.  Get your veggies and healthy proteins!  Stay away from quick sugar fixes.

4- TAKE NOTES!  If I am interrupted at work, I jot down a quick note of where I’m at in my task before taking another call or talking to the person that just walked up. Notes just take a second and can save you time in the end. Don’t under estimate taking notes!

Notes help clear your brain. How often do you think of things to pick up at the store as you are going throughout your day. You don’t want to forget so you have a portion of your focus going to this task. Instead, keep a task list on your phone or in a notepad you check each day. As something runs through your head, open your phone or notepad, jot it down. This leaves your brain open for other tasks.  This also works great at night.  Have paper and a pen next to your bed.

Just the act of writing something down helps you remember it later.

5- RELEASE STRESS. This is a big one!! Stress quickly clouds your focus.  Exercise, meditate, take deep breathes, use affirmations, try yoga.  Releasing stress will help clear your mind.

6-Look at people when they are talking to you. Turn the radio or TV down, remove other distractions.

7 -Keep your surroundings ORGANIZED and work on one project at a time. Make sure to finish projects so you can check them off your list!

What do you do to keep your focus?


What Gives You Energy?

What Gives You Energy?

Some days I wake up feeling so tired and drained of energy that I feel little motivation to move through the day.

Here are some suggestions I use on those days:

1- Force myself get out of bed. Do not waste your day. Laying in bed will just make you feel worse. It allows time for negative thoughts to run through your head.

2- Eat something healthy. Food fuels your body. It’s energizing to take care of yourself. Unhealthy foods provide soothing feelings momentarily but will quickly drain you of energy in the long run.

3- Drink plenty of water and stay hydrated. This provides physical energy.

4- Exercise. Run or even take a short walk. You may start out feeling as if you can barely put one foot in front of the other, but you will start feeling more energy as you move forward. Take in the sounds and the sites around you.

5- Do not watch TV! This quickly drains energy if you are already feeling down.

6- I open my windows and let in light and fresh air.

7- Pull energy from your physical environment. I’ll label it One Mindfulness. Focus on a beautiful tree outdoors. What color is it, how does it move, what sound does the air make as it moves through it’s leaves?

Have you ever read the book “The Celestine Prophecy”, by James Redfield? It’s more of a fictional account, but I found it quite interesting. It has a focus about using the energy around us.


8- Work on a hobby. Read, photograph, blog, play music, make models, take a road trip, paint a room, sew… find something that interests you.

9- I try to sleep 6-7 hours a night. It’s not always possible, but too little or too much sleep can quickly drain energy.

10- Use affirmations and breathing exercises. I’m a big believer in these!

Where do you get your energy from?



Having trouble finding peace?

One Mindfulness is a very helpful technique in finding peace, but can be very hard to accomplish some days.

Try playing an instrument like the guitar, banjo, keyboard (my favorite), or drums. Ever seen someone playing a didgeridoo? I have always wanted to try one of those! It doesn’t matter what you choose, keep your options open.

Something you’ve never done before?? No worries, if you are new to playing start simple and make it fun. The great thing about playing an instrument is that it takes a lot of concentration, great for one mindfulness. You have to focus on how to play the instrument and what sounds are coming out of it. It takes your focus off the outside world and onto making music.

You can play from ear or learn to play from written music. You can get information on how to play from books at garage sales or music stores. Look on line for instructions. There are many videos available on line now. Find an local instructor that you can see once a week to help you learn. The learning options are limitless.


If you used to play an instrument start playing again. Remember the peace and fun it brought to your life? It’s never too late to start playing again. It will take practice, but that’s part of the fun.

Ever play piano, there are some great keyboards you can buy that are easier than having to move a piano and keep it tuned. Used drums (think bongo drums smiley) and guitars are easy to find at garage sales, on line, or at your local music store. Ever try a recorder?  They are less expensive to buy and are a small, simple instruments to learn. Visit your local music store and see what they have available. Have patience with the learning process, take it slow. Enjoy.

FOCUS on the sound of the instrument, the feel of the instrument, the sheet music or the memorization of notes, and the peacefulness that comes from playing.

Find a Little PEACE in Your Life

Find a Little PEACE in Your Life

Peace is found everywhere around you.

Make an effort to identify something peaceful in your life every day.  Make a game out of it so it becomes a habit.  If you have a very stressful life this may seem hard to do at first.  It can take some practice.

It can help to have a note pad next to your bed and force yourself to write down at least one peaceful thing you saw that day.

Peace can be seen as you are driving to and from work.  Look for green fields and flowers or kids playing baseball.


Seek out the peaceful elements of your surroundings.  In crowded areas maybe you’ll hear a child laughing or smell delectable food from a nearby restaurant.

Take a walk or a hike and listen to the birds or watch the gentle waves in a lake.  Listen to nearby streams and focus on the sound and the sun reflecting on the ripples in the water.  Take a closer look at the lake, do you see rocks or fish swim peacefully by?


Observe the small things around you and take in the peaceful energy.

What brings peace into your life?

Many Different Ways to “WIN” a BATTLE

Many Different Ways to “WIN” a BATTLE

Learn healthy habits to handle every day battles. Don’t hold onto negative energy.

Why fight some battles but let others go? How do you choose which battles to fight? Learn when to have a healthy debate.

Everyone runs into negative situations. Someone is picking on you or your child, you have a disagreement with your boss, a stranger is rude to you, or someone cuts you off in traffic.

Learning healthy ways to handle negative situations will bring peace into you life. Life is too valuable to fight on a daily basis. On the other hand, there are battles that you need to fight for. It’s not healthy to ignore all negative situations. There are some battles that will linger forever if you do not stick up for your beliefs. Holding onto anger can allow it to grow inside you and negatively effect your physical and mental health.

Which battles do you fight through debating or expressing your views? I always ask myself if the issue is something that will continue to frustrate me in a couple weeks. If it will, then I take it head on. If not, walking away may actually win the battle.


For example, if the store clerk is rude, are you really going to care a day later? Chances are you’ll be over the frustration within a day or possibly even within a few minutes. So, in situations like this, walk away. Let it go and don’t be confrontational or rude in return. You will feel stronger because you let it go. If you must respond be truly nice in return. Do not say something that will escalate the situation. Your reaction won the situation.

Keep in mind, most of the time people are rude it’s not really directed at you. They are having issues of their own that have nothing to do with you. They hold onto anger and then lash out at innocent people. Or, maybe you just took them wrong and they were not trying to be rude.

If someone picks on you or a loved one, take it on. You and your loved ones are worth it. Being picked on is likely something you will hold onto for years or even a lifetime. In these sorts of situations be strong, but practice pausing before you react. Violence is not the answer. Practice social intelligence. Give your brain enough time to think before you speak.  Find a friend to talk through it first before you react. You will be proud of yourself that you stuck up for the situation and handled it in a healthy manner.

Many situations do not need a confrontation. Often you just need to stand up for your opinions and values and have a healthy debate.  Debates are OK. You will learn a lot more through debating than from fighting. Even if you do not win the debate you still WON in the fact you learned more about the other person’s point of view and you were able to convey yours.

Think though healthy ways to take on the battles of life and find your peace.